Okay so I was remembering all the early fandom nonsense criticizing Ginny for breaking up with boys for what they saw as silly reasons (they were not, and anyone has the right to end a relationship if it’s not working for them) and it occurred to me how Ginny refuses to put up with anyone giving her shit or not respecting her wishes or condescending to her can be directly traced back to her experiences with Tom Riddle.
He was, in many ways, Ginny’s first relationship. He looked down on her- there is no doubt about that since he openly mocked her to Harry. He was the only one in control in the relationship and he used that control to abuse, manipulate and possess her. Ginny was so lonely and felt so hopeless that she completely gave this much older guy she didn’t even know anything about everything he needed to exploit and control her. There were no boundaries in this relationship because Ginny was too young to feel the need for them. She gave and he took. She was treated in a way she did not in the least bit deserve. It was the very definition of an abusive relationship.
So is it really a surprise that after this horrific experience, Ginny developed very clear boundaries? That the instant a guy doesn’t respect her wishes, or treats her in a way she doesn’t deserve, she shuts him down completely or ends that relationship? That is more than just Ginny being strong willed (which is great), it’s also self-preservation developed from her desire not to end up in an abusive relationship again.